Ten years married and feel tied down?

I am coming up on my ten year anniversary and we have been together for 11, but I am feeling tied down and unhappy. Our life sucks, he gets his and doesn't seem to care if I get mine, we never kiss during anymore, and he only seems to want it once a week...so needless to say I am really not into with him as I don't feel desired. Top that off with ten years of him not wanting me to work so I have stayed home with kids, I put my whole life on hold because anytime I try to work or go to school he gets pissy with me and accuses me of all kinds of crap I end up remaining at home all the time and Im a little resentful as he promised to support me in what I wanted to do and he never does. I even had him walk out on me when I had my implants removed (health issues). I don't know what I should do, I want to do whats best for my kids. I cant divorce him, I cant afford it and he is just so mean, I fear he would do things to purposely hurt me or my kids....like try to financially break me. What should I do? I tried counseling, that was a huge joke to say the least.